Karalee’s Post #60
New Year’s Day represents a new year and the possibility of a fresh start. I’ve never been one to make resolutions and this year I’m asking myself why. Why haven’t I made commitments at this time of year to make changes?
- Until now I’ve thought that most people break their resolutions so I wouldn’t set myself up for failure
- my perceptions were that New Year’s Resolutions were to stop doing something bad in your life like smoking, drinking, shoplifting, beating your dog or your children and such, and I’ve never had any of those bad habits to break (well, smoking when I was a teenager, but I quit before New Year’s)
But now, after a very difficult year of self-awareness and self-discovery of childhood traumas that I never knew existed but have put my life into perspective and taught me that I’m really not crazy (and that I have good reasons to have certain fears of certain types of people), my view of life has shifted. I am very fortunate to not have developed addictions or passed on abusive behaviors to my own children and for that I am very thankful. And for these reasons I am going to make New Year’s resolutions for the first time in my life.
They aren’t resolutions to break bad habits, but rather to develop good habits to change the tone of my daily life.
This year I resolve to:
- take time every day to keep my emotional and spiritual self healthy through positive thinking and meditation.
- have gratitude for all the good things in my life. This includes where I live globally and locally, my lifestyle, and my family and friends
- continue to work on accepting things in my life that I really don’t want to accept. This has been a huge stumbling block for me in my marriage and I realize that I am very, very stubborn!
- allow my love of writing be a top priority and not have mother guilt of not doing enough for others override what I truly love to do.
- have daily gratitude for my wonderful writing group that I have not connected with this year as much as I had committed to doing. Thank-you so much for your patience with me and I’m looking forward to my productivity in 2014.
- make a To Do list everyday that includes the above and follow it through. I have been resistant to the idea of this and the daily commitment it takes to attain and maintain one’s emotional health, but I realize the necessity of this in order to establish good new habits.
So Happy New Year to everyone and wishing you all a new perspective in 2014.