Karalee’s Post #116
I have been known to say that writing can be lonely. I’ve even changed my life this year by joining a business in direct marketing to augment my retirement AND meet up with friends and talk to strangers. Lots of strangers. And many of those strangers have become friends.
My life has changed. I’m happier being more social. I’m more at peace and moving in a direction that I’m enjoying. Now, did I make this change in my life to get out of the house more because writing is lonely?
My answer is a resounding NO!
No that is, that writing is lonely. It isn’t. Not ever. When I think about it, I was wrong when I said that writing can be lonely. How can it be when my mind is filled with characters and places and relationships and mysteries and, and, and…. There’s so much happening when I write that there is NO ROOM for loneliness!
So where does this sense of loneliness come from?
I had to laugh when the truth hit me. I realized that the only time I feel lonely “writing” is when I’m not actually writing. It’s when I stop writing and sit there, just me and my computer, and I feel that I’m the only “real” person in the room or the house. It’s when the sun is shining outside and I think I’d rather be in the garden, or when I “should” be doing the millions of other chores in my life that suddenly become important.
It’s when my writing isn’t flowing that I can feel lonely. It’s when I have hours in my day to write and I continue to have difficulty staying focused that loneliness creeps in.
This was happening to me and I needed a change. I had to get out of my comfort zone and challenge myself. My family no longer required my full attention and I had energy to burn.
AND, I have come to realize that I am more social than I ever thought I was. I want more social interaction and if I can achieve this and do business at the same time, it’s a win-win for me. I used to own a large physiotherapy practice and I’m enjoying the challenge of being in business again.
I’m not throwing in the towel regarding writing. Not at all! With fewer hours to sit in my office chair, there’s more push to stay focused and be more productive. My “not writing” hours will be fewer and therefore not as lonely.
A change is good for my writing!
Achievements this week:
- my garden is all planted and set to grow!
- I’m the sole caretaker of the neighborhood traffic circle garden. I also got this area planted/weeded for the season.
- reorganize my office/writing area. I’ve moved twice in the last three months to accommodate others in the house. Back to normal in September!
- 1 hr/day writing. Need to get 30 pages done for July 5th!
Keeping balance in my life:
- Sticking to the Slight Edge philosophy to achieve success in my new business and in my writing.
- Daily meditation and exercise. I am healthy, have good energy and am staying more centered.
- Staying in touch with fellow 5Writers every Monday (or Tuesday) keeps our group strong and supporting one another!
- A positive attitude leads to more happiness, and more writing!